20 Things No One Tells You About Postpartum Recovery

Thanks to the hundreds of women that contributed to our “No One Told Me..” series, future mamas can never say no one told them what to truly expect during pregnancy, birth, and now... postpartum recovery.

NO ONE TOLD ME...

1. ABOUT THE SOAKING NIGHT SWEATS 💦

“5 weeks of intense night sweats (soaking wet) after delivery!” - Ashley J.

“Postpartum night sweats that soak through the sheets while your hormones get back to normal.” - Lisa G.

2. ABOUT ALL THE HAIR LOSS 😩

“That my feet would grow and my hair would fall out for months after having the baby.” - Brooke S.

“I thought my hair would never stop falling out pp.” - Megan G.

“How amazing my hair would look and then immediately fall out in masses.” - Julianne G.

3. THAT YOU CAN HAVE HOBBIT FEET FOR WEEKS 👣

“Everyone told me about getting swollen ankles during pregnancy, but no one told me my legs and feet would blow up like balloons after delivery and wouldn't go down for weeks.” - Rachael V.

“No one told me that your feet and legs stay swollen AFTER having the baby for a while.” - Stephanie G.

4. ABOUT LOSING BLADDER CONTROL 🙀

“No one told me every time after childbirth you sneeze, cough, move wrong - you pee!.” - Nina G.

“Nobody told me that I would not be able to hold my pee long enough to make it to the toilet for a couple weeks postpartum.” - Krystal L.

5. THAT SEX WILL BE DIFFERENT...VERY DIFFERENT 👉🏻👌🏻

“No one told me that sex is different afterwards. It's like you've been handed a whole new vagina and you gotta figure it out all over again. We had some frustrating times in the bedroom for about a year afterwards.” - Jacki S.

“No one told me that your vagina would feel like it’s on fire trying to have sex after the doc gives the green light. And that the pain can last up to 6 months even. And it even happens when you never push a baby out! It’s worse than losing your virginity.” - Angela S.

6. HOW HYDRATED YOU REALLY NEED TO BE 💦

“How if you don’t drink 1000 gallons of water while nursing can lead to horrible constipation.” - Ann W.

7. THAT THE BLEEDING GOES ON FOR WEEKS 😝

“No one told me I would bleed for 6 weeks after having the baby!” - Katie G.

“Or that it would smell like something died inside of you.” - Marci S.

“No one told me that the weeks later the bleeding could stop then let out a huge gush when you go out for a walk. Learned that one the hard way.” - Brenda J.

8. THAT BREASTFEEDING IS A BEAST 🥛

“No one told me how painful the first few days of nursing were. My baby had a good latch, it just took some time for them to no longer be so sensitive! And how painful the engorgement of milk coming in was!” - Jenn M.

“No one told me that my boobs would leak milk....all the time...everywhere. Get the breast pads, all of them.” - Melissa A.

“No one told me that exclusively pumping was an option. I fell into it and it’s been great for my little guy.” - Kelli H.

“That milk doesn't just come in.” - Julianne G.

“No one told me that not everyone can breastfeed.” - Kayla A.

“Milk comes out of several small holes in your nipples not just one. And they leak on one side when you’re breastfeeding so have a burp cloth handy.” - Laurel S.

“That I may not produce breast milk no matter what I do.” - Dafna F.

9. HOW LONG HEALING REALLY TAKES 🤕

“No one told me that your vagina could take more than 6 weeks to heal and it could try to grow itself shut which would possibly require an additional surgery to “fix” it.” - Samantha K.

“No one told me- weeks after delivery it felt like my vagina was going to fall out.

No one told me I would leak everywhere and that “Depends undies” were going to be my best friends.” - Melissa V.

10. WHAT POSTPARTUM DEPRESSION IS REALLY LIKE 😔

“No one told me that I would feel strangely empty in the days following birth as I adjusted to my little love being outside of me.” - Leah H.

“Nobody told me how incredibly lonely and devastating PPA and PPD would be. I thought a magic pill would make it all go away.” - Haleigh L.  

“PPD....it’s awful and no one specializes in it.” - Sharon K.

“No one told me that PPD is not the same as regular depression, and it can steal so much joy from you, and if you don't ask for help or have someone to advocate for you, it can be crippling.” = Liz. S

11. HOW STRESSFUL IT IS HAVING VISITORS 😦

“No one warned me that having visitors would stress me out so much. My mama bear instincts kicked into high gear immediately and I didn’t want anyone touching my new baby. Like no one. I wasn’t expecting to feel like that.” - Regina S.

12. ABOUT THE MOMMY SHAMING 🤦🏼‍♀️

“No one told me that so many people who should not have an opinion about stuff would have an opinion about EVERYTHING. People will make judgements about how many kids you should have, how old you are when you get pregnant, your birth plan, or lack of one, how much weight you have gained (whether too much or not enough - I've had it both ways), the names you choose, the glass of wine you have occasionally, the foods you eat. Everything you do is scrutinized and commented on.”  - Liz S.

13. HOW PAINFUL THE SLEEP DEPRIVATION REALLY IS 😴

“I honestly felt like I was DYING the first couple months from lack of sleep. Like no joke. It was rougher than rough.” - Aarika Y,

14. THAT LAUGHING HURTS 😖

“Labor isn’t as bad as the week after where even laughter will hurt your insides.” - Daniellie N.

15. THAT YOUR ABS WILL SEPARATE 👎🏻

“No one warned me [about] the fact that your abs will almost certainly separate during pregnancy.” - Lauren H.

16. THAT HEMORRHOIDS ARE STILL A PROBLEM 😡

“No one told me you can get hemorrhoids as a symptom of pregnancy (didn’t get them until postpartum and i had a c section!)” - Ashley K.

17. THE DARK LINE STAYS A WHILE 🤷🏼‍♀️

“The linea Negra line could take years to go away.” - Victoria G.

18. THAT C-SECTION NUMBNESS LASTS A WHILE 🤔

“No one told me that I would likely never gain back feeling in parts of my c-section incision and around it” - Angela S.”

19. THAT THE WEIGHT DOESN’T ACTUALLY JUST FALL OFF 

“No one told me that it can take almost a year to lose the baby weight and that breastfeeding can make your body actually hold on to fat. The whole “weight will just fall off of you thing” is LIES. TOTAL LIES!” - Karlie M.

20. AND ONCE AGAIN...THAT YOU MAY DO IT AGAIN ANYWAY...🤰🏼

Recovery from childbirth can be slow and miserable at times. Fortunately we have a precious little creation, or two, or three, to distract us from it all. It’s important to keep perspective on what your body goes through during childbirth. Getting our bodies back to “normal” takes time. It’s a process, a healing process. It’s also important to remember the massive hormone shift that takes place after giving birth and how everyone’s body handles that differently. Postpartum depression is sometimes a result and that can really take a toll on new moms. Fortunately though, there IS something you can do about it. Please communicate any PPD symptoms with your doctor so they can help you navigate through it.

Thanks again to all the awesome mamas that shared some real talk with The Mom Report about the beauty of birthing humans.

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